Seriously, how we deal with others is the result of our unconscious inner dialogue. Anxiety, a self induced dilemma is maximized when we exaggerate situations as being about us.
Developing assertiveness as oppose to aggression is important. You can disarm lie confrontation to move your objective forward in simple ways.
So what you can you do to avoid unconscious defaults and provide yourself more behavioral flexibility in the moments of truth that matter most? Here are three suggestions that I have seen work well:
Identify your defaults. You will find them, and likely culprits will be behaviors such as interrupting, becoming aggressive or passive, taking ownership of ideas, micromanaging, and jumping too quickly to negative judgments of others.
Schedule high-conflict conversations – Do so before lunch, at the end of the day, or at the end of a tough week when your self-control is likely to be low? If an easy day has unexpectedly become difficult, consider shuffling your afternoon.
Read more via Lee Newman – Harvard Business Review.
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